Divorce Stress - Is There Any Way to Relieve It ? - Part Two4. Make Friends Divorcees should resist the temptation to isolate themselves. This is the time to reach out to more friends for support. Visit long lost friends and spend time with them over a cup of coffee, and catch up for lost time by updating each other with your own life story. Vent all you want until you feel relieved. Just be sure your friend is willing to listen constructively otherwise you might be getting an unexpected reprimand. However, you should also be open for an honest evaluation of your situation should your friend want to put her two cents worth. Most of all, arm yourself with a smile that can help you win friends when you need it.
5. Be Easy on Yourself You had seriously hoped for a perfect family but now you are getting a divorce. All the efforts you had put to keep this relationship just did not work. Maybe you think you had been more caring, understanding and loving. Maybe you think you should have given more time for your partner’s needs. Do not look back too much, you will only drag yourself into self-pity. Loosen up a bit and give yourself the benefit of the doubt. - - Allow yourself to hope once again for a brighter future. Think only about the good and the beautiful; they can help you recover. Let others help you. Delegate to your kids the chores that they can do by themselves. Try to make a way to do routine activities in the most convenient way. If, for example, you are used to cooking your meals, try to eat in a fast food restaurant so you do not have to cook and wash the dishes.
6. Set Your Priority List Succumb to the fact that you are only human, and that you can only do so much in a given time. Take time to sit down and write the things that needs to be done according to what is most important to what is least important. The ones that have something to do with daily survival like your job should take priority. Your children’s needs should also share the same priority. Other than these, everything else should be at the bottom of your priority list.
7. Get Out of Your Routine Doing the same tasks in a different way can give you the fresh air that you need. If you are used to sending emails to friends to ask them how they are doing, you can craft a card and scribble your thoughts on it and send it by postal mail. If your office happens to be just near your house, you can jog to your office instead of driving. If you are used to stocking up old books, you can put them in a box and donate them to a community library. If you are used to doing your own laundry, you can avail of the services of a nearby laundry shop to do it for you. If you are used to watching dvd’s at home, you can go to a theater and watch a play instead. If you happen to love reading, you may want to purchase books on effective ways to relieve yourselves of stress. The bookstores are teeming with such literatures. You can find different ways and techniques to reduce your stress through these kinds of books. Enhancing your self-image and anger management are also skills that help relieve unnecessary stress.
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